Why can't we be friends?



I've had blog ideas in my head all week- I think this means that things are slowing down at work enough for me to think although I don't have enough time to actually execute these ideas.

I was thinking about how virtually "connected" I am to all of my internet buddies via facebooks, blogger, twitter, foursquare, yelp and the like. It's bizarre- I feel a strange connection to the people who I interact with online because I'm reading their thoughts on all of these places. But when I see them in person, sometimes the first few minutes are like an awkward first date.

I was reading facebook updates the other day. My buddy HomeValley, who I haven't actually seen in person since high school twelve years ago lamented the need for babysitting. I wondered if it would be a far-out idea to volunteer. I still fondly remember the time spent in Fat Chuck's and Gert's classes (not that I remember what we talked about) but thought...no, she'll think I'm a wack...or will she be relieved and comforted because she "knows" me pretty well? (Don't feel obligated to answer, HV- I've had too much time to think these days...)

The need for high school reunions are becoming fewer and farther between because I know what my classmate are up to- playing Farmville.

I LOVE the internet. I met my husband there (Thanks, Tom from Myspace.) My brother's best man in his wedding was a dude he met online playing WOW. (I'm not into WOW...but...it happens! )

I feel like if I ran into the Koos, HV and Shea crowd at a bar we would pick up like we did in our APHS days and giggle for a few. I could run into Amanda BullW and her newly intended at the Starbucks in Upper Darby and congratulate them on their recent engagement- I didn't skip a beat and that weirded her out- don't post pics you don't want people to comment on in real life... like being 39 weeks pregnant in your underpants, ya  heard?

So I don't know people...are we friends or are we just "friends"?

Thoughts?

Discuss.

Comments

Homevalley said…
Friends! Word. I've often thought about deleting all of the FB "friends" I wouldn't recognize on the street (Lord, there are many), but I have all confidence we could pick up right where we left off. (Did I tell you I came across a note from you in some stuff from home about our algebra dance parties? What up?)

And for the record, I wouldn't think it strange for you to offer to babysit, just that your little man must be incredibly sweet and easy-going. My little man is incredibly sweet and a l'il high-strung. How many times is Maks up in a night these days? If you say 4, you would really make me feel better.
Isrut said…
I have a policy that when I see a facebook friend on the street, I am required to say hello.

It's still awkward.

proud to be your friend in real life!
Katie said…
I definitely think the internets is a double-edged sword. Some days I love it, other days I wish for days gone by when someone I barely knew in HS doesn't have access to my wedding photos and other special milestones in my life, just because I think of it almost on a level of voyerism, that we all willingly participate in. It's weird and I have mixed feelings about the entire thing. I also think we "forget" who we really are "friends" with on fb. If you have hundreds of friends, it's easy to forget that your old boss, or your husband's aunt or something is your "friend" and can see every post you offer up, and your pics as well. The whole thing gives me the heebie jeebies when I think of it on that level.
Kelly said…
This post is great. I agree. I am equaly weirded out by the whole thing too. Select people I feel closer with now on FB than my minimal conversations with them before.

One guy I know as a friend of a guy I casually dated who I would see at the bar occasionally; however, through all of his clever fb posts and nice updates, I now feel more in-tuned. I was genuinely sad for him when his parent passed away recently. What gives?

It is funny- I can think about this stuff to a certain level and then I get really freaked out by the complex layering of connections,where does it all end, what is the future going to be like, etc and then I stop talking about it. haha

By the way, in your case: real friend>internet friend.
Kelly said…
The spelling bee apparently didn't sting me in that last post.
Koos said…
I love this! I feel like I am "friends" with lots of peeps on my fb.
HV and I are always discussing you and Maks' pics and the like. I think its pretty cool to be able to keep up with people and hide the ones that you don't. hehe
Homevalley said…
Oh, Katie - I agree with you. I need to do a purge of my nearly 500 "friends" - admittedly, I don't remember some of them, but we apparently have friends in common.
I recently realized that any FB friend can copy your published photos. The other day, my mother received a gift from my aunt - a photo of my son she printed from FB. Extremely annoying violation in my book.
I do think there is a level of voyeurism there that most participate in innocently enough (at our 10 year HS Reunion, an old friend told me she loved my wedding day make-up... it's a bizarre world we live in, for sure), but you have a point. Sometimes, it feels very unnatural.
itskite said…
I am happy I have managed to be somewhere in the middle of friend and "friend"

I actually fully support the link to people from grade school and highschool. It makes me feel good to know about their lives despite the fact I would never normally know. Especially the good stuff, like the babies and careers. I think it will enrich the next HS reunion. The last one was pretty bad.