Whew!
I'm on a roll here...and I might offend so don't mind me.
My mom has sacrificed a lot- long story short- my dad and her split up during the pregnancy of her third child...me. Instead of hopping back into life and the dating pool she raised three high functioning and pretty successful (if I don't mind saying so myself ;-) adults. It's taken her this long (30 years, to be exact) to realize that she wants to have people over to her house- but one problem...she's a little embarrassed of the condition of it all. Needless to say, along with sacrificing her social and love life (btw, she's 63, has a great pension, passion for Ocean City, MD and needs a HUSBAND, know anyone?) her house has really suffered.
Over the course of the past two weeks entertaining people here and there and bringing my baby to her house, I've been seeing bits and pieces of what we do to ourselves (or what she did to herself for thirty years), or put up with rather, until company comes around. I had my cousin and his lovely wife over two weeks ago when I came to realize that...I don't have (or use) napkins...or that I have CAT TUMBLE WEED throughout my entire house...or that the five second rule really SHOULDN'T count on your kitchen floor because there are more germs there than there are on cement...or that I don't keep creamer or sugar so by default, no one else should use it ;-)
Long digression- unsolicited advice for today: Keep your space how you would for when your friends are coming to visit. Keep your place so you wouldn't be embarrassed what the joint looks like if someone you love and respect were to be there to visit with you. (read: a little smudge on the coffee table isn't going to kill you but the piles and piles and piles of clothes and clutter in your living room?!? Do something about it.)
Enjoy your stuff. Take out the nice wine glasses for dinner more than once a week- and if you're not drinking wine these days because you're pumping breast milk topless at your work desk? Try some chocolate milk!
Furthermore, if you can't keep up on all of your stuff- YOU HAVE TOO MUCH STUFF. Can't keep up with the dust/roof/lawn/garden/shotty fence/whatever? It might be too much for you to handle. Maybe you should move...and stop listening to people about what you're supposed to do so you buy a money pit in Aston...when you should've just gotten a bigger apartment in Media until the Prince Charming of Real Estate came along.
I read this article today. I'm ALL about having someone give me the advice that I need to hear. To be kept on the hook. Feeling sorry for myself makes me feel sorry...it's not productive.
OK- that's it for today- I need to sneak in a workout so I don't beat myself up later (and because I like to workout.)
As usual- a disclaimer: this blog is meant for me to use as a journal. I am NOT in any way, shape or form suggesting that my friends or family or strangers take this advice and run with it. I am also not criticizing anyone but the way I keep my life and home (today's topic? My house is messy and I want it to change.) Any coincidence with the unsolicited advice of the day is PURELY coincidental so please don't read into it any farther than I'm in a mood, sitting at my computer (possibly pumping breast milk) and I need to rant.
I appreciate a good (and a bad) comment... ;-)
I'm on a roll here...and I might offend so don't mind me.
My mom has sacrificed a lot- long story short- my dad and her split up during the pregnancy of her third child...me. Instead of hopping back into life and the dating pool she raised three high functioning and pretty successful (if I don't mind saying so myself ;-) adults. It's taken her this long (30 years, to be exact) to realize that she wants to have people over to her house- but one problem...she's a little embarrassed of the condition of it all. Needless to say, along with sacrificing her social and love life (btw, she's 63, has a great pension, passion for Ocean City, MD and needs a HUSBAND, know anyone?) her house has really suffered.
Over the course of the past two weeks entertaining people here and there and bringing my baby to her house, I've been seeing bits and pieces of what we do to ourselves (or what she did to herself for thirty years), or put up with rather, until company comes around. I had my cousin and his lovely wife over two weeks ago when I came to realize that...I don't have (or use) napkins...or that I have CAT TUMBLE WEED throughout my entire house...or that the five second rule really SHOULDN'T count on your kitchen floor because there are more germs there than there are on cement...or that I don't keep creamer or sugar so by default, no one else should use it ;-)
Long digression- unsolicited advice for today: Keep your space how you would for when your friends are coming to visit. Keep your place so you wouldn't be embarrassed what the joint looks like if someone you love and respect were to be there to visit with you. (read: a little smudge on the coffee table isn't going to kill you but the piles and piles and piles of clothes and clutter in your living room?!? Do something about it.)
Enjoy your stuff. Take out the nice wine glasses for dinner more than once a week- and if you're not drinking wine these days because you're pumping breast milk topless at your work desk? Try some chocolate milk!
Furthermore, if you can't keep up on all of your stuff- YOU HAVE TOO MUCH STUFF. Can't keep up with the dust/roof/lawn/garden/shotty fence/whatever? It might be too much for you to handle. Maybe you should move...and stop listening to people about what you're supposed to do so you buy a money pit in Aston...when you should've just gotten a bigger apartment in Media until the Prince Charming of Real Estate came along.
I read this article today. I'm ALL about having someone give me the advice that I need to hear. To be kept on the hook. Feeling sorry for myself makes me feel sorry...it's not productive.
OK- that's it for today- I need to sneak in a workout so I don't beat myself up later (and because I like to workout.)
As usual- a disclaimer: this blog is meant for me to use as a journal. I am NOT in any way, shape or form suggesting that my friends or family or strangers take this advice and run with it. I am also not criticizing anyone but the way I keep my life and home (today's topic? My house is messy and I want it to change.) Any coincidence with the unsolicited advice of the day is PURELY coincidental so please don't read into it any farther than I'm in a mood, sitting at my computer (possibly pumping breast milk) and I need to rant.
I appreciate a good (and a bad) comment... ;-)
Comments
The landlord came to my apt this week to do some pest control prevention (great landlord!) but didnt tell me when and my apt was a mess, clothes all over the bedroom and a sink full of dishes-I was mortified and yes I do have too much stuff so you are right.
When my house isn't ready for company, it negatively effects my social life.
I will avoid answering the phone because I don't want people to drop by and see the squalor.
A rule we have in my family is: always have beer in the fridge.
1. Yay, journals. I can't wait to read this post a year from now and be all, "What was I thinking?"
2. Beer in the fridge- great rule.
3. Get those nice dishes out pup!
Popped by from SITS.
oh and i like the new background.